I’ve read through a lot of the stories on your site, and I decided that I would send mine just so that other girls who read it won’t be as naive as I was…
It was August of 2002 when I started dating Jay. I was 16 years old and he was 26. My parents didn’t approve but I did it anyway just to make them angry. At that time I was a virgin and had very strong beliefs on not having sex until marriage. A week after we had been dating, I got drunk at a party, we went back to his house and against my will (I was telling him no). He took my virginity…something I had cherished so greatly. He didn’t use a condom, but instead told me that He could not have children. I asked him how he knew this and he told me “Me and my ex girlfriend tried for 2 years to have a baby and she never got pregnant, the doctors told me I can’t have kids.” I believed him of course. I never broke up with him after that, I’m not sure why, but I didn’t.
7 Months went by, we never used any sort of contraceptive, so of course I continued to believe that he couldn’t bear children, until March of 2003. Jay and I started to slip apart and I had my suspicions that he was seeing someone else…I found out on the evening of March 6th that I was pregnant. I took a pregnancy test; it was positive but just to be sure I went and got blood tests, and it was for sure I was pregnant. The doctor gave me the number of the abortion clinic, and when Jay and I left the hospital, he told me he thought it would be best if I had an abortion, I agreed with him wholeheartedly.
I called the Clinic the very next day and I had an appointment that Monday to speak with a psychologist. After speaking with her I knew it was the right thing to do. Jay had lied to me, and he still continued to tell me that “I didn’t know I could have kids”. I had my abortion March 14th of 2003, and I can’t lie, it was the most painful thing I’ve ever gone through with. I brought a Walkman because the clinic suggested it, but the volume at its highest still didn’t block out the noise.
After the abortion I indeed found out that Jay had been cheating on me with my cousin and a 14 year old (he was 27 by this time). I broke up with him, but remained heartbroken over everything that had happened.
In November of 2003 I found out that Jay’s new 15-year-old girlfriend was pregnant with his child, but she had decided to keep the child. After that day I decided that I would no longer feel bad for having an abortion, it was the best choice I ever made. I’m so glad that I had the option opened to me at the time. I’m now 18 years old, I just graduated from high school, and will be attending a hairdressing course in August. If I had had a child I wouldn’t have been able to do any of it, and I can finally say I’m not sorry.
