Lydia’s Story

I had an abortion in 1999. I wasn’t even eighteen years old yet. I was in a good relationship, but was also going through some of the regular ‘growing pains’ of becoming an adult. Besides not being emotionally ready, I was not financially ready. I didn’t even have a job and my boyfriend’s job would have never supported us. I thought for quite awhile about what to do after I found out. I made my decision carefully. My family was not willing to help me raise a child, my boyfriend’s family was not supportive either. I was about 13 weeks along when I decided to have the abortion. I looked everywhere for some sort of help, but there was none. It is still amazing to me that our government will pay for medical care if you are having a baby, but will not offer free or low cost abortions there-by saving themselves thousands. I had to borrow the money from my parents. I went to a nearby Planned Parenthood clinic at that point I was about 14 weeks along. The staff was very kind and professional. My mother had to sign some forms because I was not of legal age. They did some blood work that same day and inserted a laminaria to dilate my cervix. I went back the next day for the procedure. My boyfriend went with me. I had plenty of drugs, a pill to calm me then something by IV that made me dizzy, I didn’t feel any real pain. It took about 15 minutes from start to finish. When it was over I was moved to a recovery area and had some cookies and juice. I was given a Depo shot before leaving the clinic. I slept the whole way home in the backseat of the car. I slept most of the rest of the day. The next day I had some light bleeding but no discomfort and was able to go shopping. I never had any pain and didn’t take so much as an aspirin after leaving the clinic. I do not regret my decision at all. I was not ready or able to care for a child. I am thankful that I was able to obtain a safe, legal abortion. I have become more politically aware and realize that if we don’t protect our right to choose we may lose it.