I’m 35 years old…and I happened to get pregnant for the first time ever…I have a very supportive boyfriend and friends…and family…except for telling my mom…eek…I’m the oldest of 3 children and my mom and I are very close…she didn’t deal with my decision very well…but she came around after seeing things through my eyes… anyway, I was very fortunate to be connected with an awesome women’s center…I went in for an ultrasound and a talk-through…I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do at the time…
The next time I went in (having made my decision to have a surgical procedure) I was very blessed to have my nurse be a friend from years back…and my doctor was an old hippie from the country fair…I had my boyfriend waiting for me and an amazing staff to ease me through the procedure…I felt like I was making a difficult decision but that I was very fortunate in having such a good environment around me no matter what!
The procedure was not the most easy thing I’ve done…although I will say that having my wisdom teeth pulled with nothing but novocaine was so much worse…the people around me made it so much easier to deal with…all of the staff were very compassionate and caring…after having the abortion done, I left with my boyfriend to catch a bus home (that was my choice)…I cooked a pot roast and veggies that evening and took it easy the next day Sooooo…my first day back at work…kind of uncomfortable….I work in a deli and that involves a lot of standing…and more standing… by the time I made it home after that first shift…I felt pretty funky…I had been running a fever for about 18 hours…not terribly high, and I had already contacted my doctor…and then the pain came!!! I passed about 1/2 cup of blood clots in about 40 minutes…with the most incredible cramping…mind you, I have a pretty high pain tolerance…my periods tend to be pretty painful on a regular basis…so anything that gets me curled up in a ball saying “ow…ow…owwwww….owww….owwwwwwwwwwwwwww….” is a pretty big deal…
After calling the doctor and getting antibiotics/ pain pills squared away, things went all right…
I haven’t had a period yet (it’s only been 2 weeks since the procedure) and I know that there is potential for a lot of emotions to come out then…but I feel I made the right decision…I’m not sorry!!! Actually, after the procedure was done I felt so much better…no puking every night…I still want to have children, I just want it to be a little more planned…i love my boyfriend and appreciate all the support he gave me…from the moment of becoming pregnant that poor man was sleeping in the basement bedroom…i lost all desire for any human contact when my nipples started hurting…I was so fortunate to have had an amazing network of women around me at work and at the women’s center I went to that were sooooo supportive…my friends have been amazing! And I’m not sorry! I have a few more years of childbearing to go…and now that I know I can get pregnant (that was a doubt in my mind…) I am acting more responsibly…I’m not sorry and I appreciate the fact that I have a choice!
