Melissa's Story

I was 26 years old when I had my abortion done. I was a single mom living with my parents. I had left my son's father the summer before due to the relationship deteriorating. We remained friends for our son's sake. I did not intend to have any more children.

I had traveled to another city to visit my brother for his birthday and my friend Mark, a guy who I had feelings for a long time, also lived in this city. I went to stay with my brother but at the last minute decided to spend my weekend at Mark's apartment. After taking my brother out for his birthday, we went back to Mark's place for the night where I intended to stay on the couch for the night. Mark and I got to drinking some very nice wine that he had purchased on the way home, and ended up sleeping together. I don't remember if we used protection. I was on the birth control pill so I thought "well, at least I won't get pregnant."

The next morning, Mark joked that he hoped I was on the pill or something because he "forgot" to use a condom. I was mortified! And very upset. Left his house that moment after packing up my things and never spoke to him again.

I found out I was pregnant about 2 weeks later when my period didn't show up. As soon as I saw the two lines on the test, I knew what I had to do. There was NO way that Mark would take pregnancy seriously. He had previously "persuaded" his last girlfriend to have an abortion. He made it clear to me and to anyone else that spoke of children, that he never wanted them. I called planned parenthood that day and made an appointment for 3 weeks later. I talked to the nurse who explained the procedure. I kind of just zoned out when she went into detail about the drugs I had to take because I just didn't care, this pregnancy would not go on. I had to do this.

I called my best friend and told her. I also told my son's father. And when the appointment date came, they both accompanied me to the nearest centre 2 hours away. I was sent to a room with 5 other women and it really felt like I was the only one that was wanting to be there. The other women were crying and were carrying on, they all looked scared. I never had a second thought in my mind about not doing this. I already had a 2 year old at home with my parents, there was no way I could support another one. And I knew that Mark wouldn't either.

The procedure took about 15 minutes and it was the best 15 minutes of my life. I felt instant relief when I heard the doctor say, "OK we're all done here." I was sent to recovery and left after about an hour.

I think about the abortion once in a while since then but never in a negative light. It was what I had to do and I did it. I never will regret it.