Well, I went into the pharmacy and they told me my birth control prescription had run out. I went to the GYNO to refill my prescription. I waited and waited for my period to start so I could start my birth control. My period never came. I was in my third year of college. I was 20 years old and with my boyfriend for 7 months at the time. The fact of parenting and adoption never crossed my mind. I knew from the beginning carrying or parenting a child wasn't for me. I was 6 1/2 weeks pregnant, so I chose a medical abortion (pill form). While the stress and emotional discomfort of the abortion did affect my studies. A baby would have affected them more. I said I would never have another abortion after that, but when another scare came again, I knew it was not my time to have a child. Today if I was pregnant I would have another abortion. It has been the best life altering decision I have ever made. And while my closest friends did not support me (and still do not) me and my boyfriend agree it was the best decision for us. I do think about it everyday, and I do think about what could have been, but then I think about what SHOULD have been. I want to live my life as I have seen it, not as it has become. Working in retail and seeing baby clothing everyday was hard at first. Having an abortion while the '08 presidential election was going on affected my political views. When I saw posters of aborted fetuses on the food court doors of a local mall, it made me angry, not sad. Something the size of a peanut doesn't have a life. It doesn't have opinions or emotions. As a Christian I believe God forgives all, and something that shouldn't be won't be. There were protesters outside of the clinic, offering me free ultrasounds and when I denied them they told me "killing my child wasn't the answer". They prayed for me as I stepped inside the clinic. I prayed for myself as well. I prayed that I would never regret my decision. Then my friend who went with me (who had just taken the morning after pill) told me that what I was doing was no different then what she had just done (just more expensive). With my low income, the free ultrasound sounded appealing, but when I thought of the hundreds of thousands of dollars I would need to raise a child, the 700 dollars for an abortion sounded much more efficient and logical. I do someday plan to have children. I do feel that at this time in my life I could not take care of a child as I had wished to. I hope that every girl or woman in my position has the choice to deal with pregnancy as she sees it fit. Since I used to be pro-life, my experience has changed my point of views dramatically, when it came down to it. I hope that every woman will always have the right to choose. I m not sorry.
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