The first termination took place in 1995. I was supported by my then-boyfriend (aged 18) and my parents. My mother has strong views against abortion, but allowed me to make the choice myself. The operation was carried out in a private hospital, half funded by savings from my Saturday job, and half funded by my boyfriend. The staff were friendly and reassuring and the recovery period was essentially painless, except for some heavy bleeding. Emotionally, I was shaky for a couple of weeks, but otherwise fine. My boyfriend and I split up three months later, although we are still friends.

Whilst at university I became pregnant again, this time as a result of an unwitting contraceptive mishap during a one night stand. I was in the second year of my degree course, living in shared student accommodation, and had no desire for a child in my life. The time the operation was carried out on the NHS and again things went smoothly. At my request, and the doctor’s advice, I was also fitted with a coil at the same time. Following the operation I found it difficult to cope emotionally, and became quite withdrawn for a few months, although at no point did I regret my decision.

I am now 27 and have had the chance to finish my formal education and develop my career and my financial security. I am in a stable long-term relationship with my partner and I am still childless. Having children is still something for me that is very much on the back burner, although I hope to one day. If I do, I will do so in the knowledge that I am emotionally ready as well able to provide financial security. I feel that being forced to have a child against my will earlier in my life would have left me feeling bitter and resentful, and that the child would have suffered for my shortcomings. I can wholeheartedly say that in both cases I AM NOT SORRY.