I got pregnant when I had a condom break on me while I was having sex with this guy I didn't even love. I was heartbroken from my last relationship and was acting on some bad advice to get over it by having a fling. It was the only sex I had had for a long time. We only did it once and I got pregnant. Before this time I had thought about abortion as something that I supported the right to in the abstract but I didn't think I would ever do it. The problem was, at this time in my life I had no place to live. I was just staying with friends. I had barely gotten myself a job and was starting to scrape a life together again, but I was as bad off as I had ever been, ever been financially and emotionally. The father was a 19-year-old pot-smoking loser who I just chose as a distraction, not because he was a good person. I didn't want to raise a child with him (I have higher standards for whom I'll sleep with now). I waited until I was six weeks pregnant to even get a test because I was so deep in denial and when I found out that I was pregnant I totally freaked. I decided right away that I wanted an abortion and I never went back. I am so glad that people are making this Web site, because when I did research looking for support I couldn't find any in the public, but all of my friends who I went to for support knew someone who had been through this or had been themselves. I was surprised how common it is. So I had the abortion. I had it on Christmas Eve, and I was sad, and I did have to process it emotionally for a while. But I am totally not sorry.
My advice to anyone reading this who is getting
an
abortion is that if you are not in a relationship at the time of your
abortion DON'T GET INTO ONE UNTIL YOU ARE FEELING BETTER AGAIN. I got into a relationship right after mine and
because I was still dealing with grief and working through the
abortion,
I chose someone really bad for me who was abusive because I hadn't
gotten myself back together emotionally yet. So wait until you feel
better before you put yourself out there romantically again. Let your
friends and loved ones support and protect you. I don't regret the
abortion because now I am in school and working and enjoying my
freedom,
I have grown so much and someday when I am a mother I'll be a better
one
than I could have imagined being three years ago when I had nothing and
was heartbroken. I believe my abortion was a good choice.
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